You encounter the problem, it hits you, it starts to hurt, you are not yet aware of it. You start to realize that yes, it's gone, it's not coming back, you look for reasons, you look for answers, you don't get out of the loop, all the answers you find are the same, it's all your fault. Time goes by, you start to realize, that it wasn't you that was the problem, that everything happens, that everything flows, that there is much more beyond the pain, you begin to heal your wounds and find happiness, self-love.